Showing posts with label Motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motherhood. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Short and Sweet Thoughts About My Beautiful Baby Boy

I see the ocean in his eyes and the sun in his smile.
Ten fingers, ten toes.
He inspires me with every breath. 
Those big blue eyes.
The chubbier the better. 
Baby talk warms the depths of my soul.
My son has stolen my heart.

I look forward to teaching him about the world.
To have him see, touch, taste, smell and listen to the magic found in everything.
There is such a wonderful beauty found within his purity.
Having a child is the most wonderful thing is the world. 
The love a mother has for her child can not be described in words. It is only understood by mothers.
He is perfect. Just perfect.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Love is My Religion

     I am always thinking about love.  My love for Todd, Koa, the rest of my family and friends, nature and even the love I have for myself.  In essence, when it comes down to it love is my religion. However, try telling that to family members who are all traditional Catholic souls!  I decided to write about this issue after having a recent conversation (or more so a lecture) from many different family members regarding the baptism of baby Koa.
     Why is that they all struggle to except my spirituality and views about religion? It is like they  cast a scarlet letter on me every time we have a discussion about religion and how I do not consider myself affiliated with any label even though I was baptized Catholic. They get even more upset by the fact that Todd and I are choosing NOT to baptize Koa into any religion. We refuse to give into this social obligation especially as it seems  a bit hypocritical to baptize your son Catholic when you are not planning to practice or even take any part in the Catholic practices or faith.  If and when Koa is ready and would like to baptize himself into a certain religion, Todd and I will happily support his choice as we believe it is his choice to make.  I want him to have knowledge of many religions and cultures and if he feels the need to label himself into one of them, so be it. Until then, my belief is to expose him to as much as possible so he does not view things (like my family) from such a limited linear point of view.
      While I do hear my family's arguments in terms of values and tradition, I hate how they are so closed minded to alternative perspectives. There are other ways to instill values into your children aside from Catholic teachings.  It has been very difficult for them to respect  our choice not to baptize baby Koa.
      I am curious about other peoples perspectives on baptism and invite you to comment and share...

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

The Affectionate Mother

I thought I would share this beautiful Buddhist poem about mothers and parenthood. 
It touched my heart, I hope it touches yours...

Kind, Pitiful, our refuge she that fed us at her breast.
A mother is the way to heaven, and thee she loveth best.
She nursed and fostered us with care; graced with good gifts is she,
A mother is the way to heaven, and best she loveth thee.
Craving a child in prayer she kneels each holy shrine before.
The changing season closely scans and studies astral lore.
Pregnant in course of time she feels her tender longings grow,
And soon the unconscious babe begins a loving friend to know.
Her treasure for a year or less she guards with utmost care,
Then brings it forth and from that day a mother's name will bear.
With milky breast and lullaby she soothes the fretting child,
Wrapped in his comforter's warm arms his woes are soon beguiled.
Watching o'er him, poor innocent, lest wind or hear annoy,
His fostering nurse she may be called, to cherish thus her boy.
What gear his sire and mother have she hoards for him "May be,"
She thinks, "Some day, my dearest child, it all may come to thee."
"Do this or that, my darling boy," the worried mother cries,
And when he is grown to man's estate, she still laments and sighs,
He goes in reckless mood to see a neighbor's wife at night,
She fumes and frets, "Why will he not return while it is light?"
If one thus reared with anxious pains his mother should neglect,
Playing her false, what doom, I pray, but hell can he expect?
Those that love wealth o'er much, 'tis said, their wealth will soon be lost
One that neglects a mother soon will rue it to his cost.
Those that love wealth o'er much, 'tis said, their wealth will soon be lost.
One that neglects a father soon will rue it to his cost.
Gifts, loving speech, kind offices together with the grace
Of calm indifference of mind shown in time and place —
These virtues to the world are as linchpin to chariot wheel.
These lacking, still a mother's name to children would appeal.
A mother like the sire should with reverent honor be crowned,
Sages approve the man in whom those virtues may be found.
Thus parents worthy of all praise, a high position own,
By ancient sages Brahma called. So great was their renown.
Kind parents from their children should receive all reverence due,
He that is wise will honor them with service good and true.
He should provide them food and drink, bedding and raiment meet,
Should bathe them and anoint with oil and duly wash their feet.
So filial services like these sages his praises sound
Here in this world, and after death in heaven his joys bound.

— Jataka translation Vol. V pp. 173, 174